Saturday is a big annual work event that Riv is heading up (beautifully, of course) and I’m on the committee for. it’ll be really good to get past Saturday.
tonight was Cody’s class play and he did great. I managed not to be a terrible person and let Cody’s dad know… yesterday.
he did show up, and pulled me outside before the play started to tell me that he and Cody’s stepmom are likely headed toward divorce and his life is falling apart and that he wanted to ask me to waive all the past years of child support he owes (tens of thousands of dollars, since the only child support I’ve received has been tiny amounts garnished from his wife’s wages once or twice over the past 5 or so years) since that debt is one of the things keeping him from getting his license reinstated which is making it hard to find work, and I immediately said I would be willing, which I guess surprised him because he said he had this whole speech planned out and then proceeded to be an asshole in bullet points, as he went over the parts of the speech he’d prepared, like how he’d “never tried to take Cody” which, by the way is not only a fucked up thing to say but would be completely illegal since I have had sole custody by default since Cody’s birth, as Cody’s dad and I weren’t living together when Cody was born. ANYWAY whatever. I am not getting any child support as it is, and I would rather he get his shit together for once in his 41 years than hold out for money I am never going to get either way. but goddamn. I am exhausted. Cody was super happy to see him though. but of COURSE, every time he gets to see his dad, he has to push all of my buttons and test every boundary with me afterward. it’s like clockwork. and I am sorry his dad doesn’t make an effort to see him more than a handful of times every year but I am just so tired.
whatever. Riv lets me vent and that makes life easier. and you guys. thanks tumblroos. xoxoxoxo